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Trusting your other half

I’m still working on the new theme. It’s taking a longer time to finish. I just couldn’t get the designs to look crafty enough; the angle is wrong, the colours don’t match, and above all, I lack the inspiration to continue. So I guess I’ll stick with the current theme a little longer, perhaps for ‘nother couple of weeks?

The other day I was listening to the university’s radio transmission and I was intrigued with the topic discussed: trust as key to a happy relationship.

Personally, I think trust is everything in a relationship. Relationship begins with trust in each other. Putting your trust on another person means you are opening up yourself to the other person, showing that you have faith in the person.
When you begin to trust someone, you are exposing some of your vulnerabilities to the other person. We, naturally, do not want people to take advantage on us, which is why we live behind a barrier to protect ourselves. But by tearing down this barrier, we are actually giving the opportunity to others to know us better and subsequently, building a relationship.

Trust is the foundation on which a relationship is built. If you don’t trust a person, howsoever you may love him/her, your relationship will not survive, because you have no trust in him/her. In fact, a trust is kind of a glue that holds a relationship together. You trust the person enough to know he/she will remain faithful and loyal to you even if you are a 1000 miles apart. You can say that trust is actually one aspect, or key, to a healthy and long-term relationship. πŸ™‚

Trust is important in a way that you know you can confide in your partner about your secrets, problems or worries comfortably because you know they will not betray your trust and your secrets are safe with them. Conversely, be a trustworthy person, that way your partner will appreciate you better.

In a relationship, be it a romantic or casual, trusting each other means you can rely on each other in times of joy and pain. And because of this, you will appreciate your partner more and relationship will bloom even more.

To quote what Leon always tell me: “do not give your partner a reason to doubt you. Once the trust is gone, you can’t get it back.” Not that easily anyway.

So in short, trust is the first thing you build in a relationship, it’s also the one that keeps the relationship going, and it’s also the one that will help the relationship through to the end. It’s EVERYTHING.

But of course, there is more to building a relationship: components of love, forgiveness and commitment are equally as important.

Question for you guys:
How much do you trust your significant other?

21 Comments

  1. Hi! Just thought I’d let you know that I added your link to the advertising section of DH. Sorry for the late reply! I would also like to thank you for your generous donation! I really appreciate it! (:

    *Hugs*
    Amanda

  2. well, I’ve never been into a relationship so I guess I can say I haven’t really felt so much attachmaent, trust or anything to a person. But hopefully soon I would πŸ™‚ Thanks for sharing! πŸ˜€ I’ll ponder that in mind ;D

  3. i agree that the foundation of each and every relationship is trust. no one can start a relationship without trust.

    How much do you trust your significant other? he has my trust 100%. i know that these days we shouldn’t be trusting a guy that much, but i am willing to take the risk. i do believe that he’ll never do something he shouldn’t.

    1. I tried posting my comment on your blog but I get this error instead:

      Sorry, comments are closed for this item.

      So I’ll just reply to your comment here πŸ™‚
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      That’s right. I do believe that it is hard to trust people 100% nowadays, but sometimes it is worth the risk. πŸ™‚ Love has the power to drive people to do amazing things. XD
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  4. hi sis. wow. you are bruneian? yes, many are astonished when i say that. i mean, they are full blooded bruneian and i am not. i guess, our family is really complicated. haha. πŸ™‚

    its nice to know you. im thankful you dropped by.

  5. Trust is so important in a relationship. <3 So, so important. Even a casual one. I think that's why casual relationships are named as such. They don't really put all their trust in the other person and perhaps that's why it doesn't last long. The people aren't really looking for long term commitment. To each their own of course, but that's what I think. If you're planning to have a long term relationship with someone, being able to trust each other is really important so you can be open with each other and maintain the relationship.

    It is really hard to regain trust from someone, especially if you put all your trust in them and they betray you. It can really hurt. I trust people quite easily and often have found my trust to be broken, and hence the friendship was too. I think trust is important in any relationship.

    I trust James a lot, and I know he trusts me too. We tell each other everything and by being open with each other like that, it has made it easier to trust each other. We know what's going on in each other's lives without being possessive. There is no need to ask and probe and there are no unanswered questions because we don't doubt each other at all. πŸ™‚

    Good luck with that new theme! XD <3

  6. I’m working on a new theme for my blog too! I designed it yesterday. Hopefully the coding won’t take too long though. Good luck with yours. πŸ™‚ I can’t wait to see it!

    I would say that I trust my boyfriend. Not to say that I have never doubted him, cause I have. It’s like a natural defense system. I can’t completely avoid that. But I do feel that, in a relationship, your boyfriend should always also be your best friend. I tell my boyfriend pretty much everything, definitely more than I tell my girl best friends, and our relationship has been pretty strong from the start because of that.

  7. Hello Kitty! True, it’s really been ages since we last talked. Probably a couple of months, even! Ahhh, I’m good, but still stressing about Mathematics. I’ll probably go for extra lessons. How about you?

    Yes! πŸ™ But when I went to school barely anyone noticed, except about five girls, all my friends (luckily :P). They said I look retarded but I don’t take offence, ’cause it’s a standing joke about me: I’m hyper and I like to fake retardedness for fun, so yeah. πŸ˜€

    Awww, thank you so much! πŸ™‚

    New theme?! It’s been ages since I last read your blog (commenting or not). It’s going to be an impressive new theme, I presume. Good luck with it! πŸ˜€ I’m sure you’ll do it well.

    Trust is reliance on another person. Believing them in what they say. And these all come out because when somebody does things well, stay loyal, nice, friendly, et cetera, most people deem them trustworthy.

    Yes, trust is love is very important. If you lose the trust someone had in you, be ready for (sometimes) cold personalities, hi-bye talks and finding that the person would rather hand a minor task to a young child than to you.

    If there’s no trust in a relationship, everything dies. Maybe you could keep up the “relationship” but it’d be pointless. Nothing would be inside. It’s like a plant. The moment you cut off the stem and the roots, the plant parts no longer have food and water, and even if it can stand, it has lost it’s purpose.

    I’m going back to juggling work and fun and waiting for Grab Bag advertisements to do for Blogsvertise! πŸ™‚ Since my father is working in Hong Kong, I’ll also be going there for a couple of weeks… and in the meantime, when I’m free, I’ll probably earn some PayPal savings so I can buy my own books when I want, instead of bothering my father and using about 1 day’s worth of food (for the whole family).

    This year is a very busy and chaotic year in fact! Osama getting killed…tsunami and earthquake in Japan… (sigh). But there was a happy event: Prince William and Kate’s wedding so yes, there are pros and cons! πŸ˜€

    I believe the other half of the year will seem better, anyway. πŸ™‚

  8. Ahhhh, time to rest for a little while! πŸ™‚ 20 years at school is a really long time! I still have two years left for my primary school, but these two years will be really stressful because of the Primary School Leaving Examinations! πŸ™ However, all these studying will probably be useful in the future, so it’s probably okay to take a bit of hardship. πŸ˜‰

    Haha! If I’m not wrong, Princess Diana said something about letting her sons marry non-royal people or something. I’m not too keen on royal happenings, so I’m not so sure. But my mom says she was a very nice lady… hmm, thank God for technology, I can Google her now.

    Mmmm that’s nice! πŸ˜€ The other day I purchased two books on the net and accidentally put my father’s name, so for two weeks I couldn’t find it ’cause my mom thought it was my dad’s letter. I was almost fuming! πŸ˜›

    Well, it depends. πŸ™ My father may be kinda busy to take me out, since there is some kind of audit, I believe.

  9. I don’t have a significant other to trust, but yeah, I totally agree that trust is the most important in a relationship. Any type of relationship, in fact.

    Your post made me recall one time where I was accused of stealing money, by my mother. I mean, I have never ever done “bad” things like stealing, vandalism, etc… (those kind of things that children are warned when they were young), so in that case, I won’t be on the top of the list if some cash was stolen from my own home, right? But then my mother accused me of stealing and I felt terrible. Like, real terrible – only one who has been through it will know. It was the kind of feeling that someone I know so well, someone so close to me, my mother, would have so little trust in me.

    Oddly, after that incident, my trust in my mother decreased. I don’t know why though!

    P.s. I saw your portfolio and shop, and I really want to order a blogger design from you :D!

  10. Trust is so important that when something comes up to disrupt it, it’s always so freaking hurting… Especially when family adds to it. πŸ™

  11. Gel

    Yeah it’s true that trust is the key to every relationship.. without it, the relationship is surely gonna fail. I can’t imagine being with someone whom I don’t trust. That would be really hard if you ask me. Once trust is broken, it would be really hard to get back.

    BTW Kitty I already posted the video blog and answered your question and did the whole flying kiss for you as per your request – hope you could check it out and comment on my latest entry! πŸ™‚

  12. I know exactly where you’re coming from, but I think that communication is the most important thing in any relationship. I don’t think you can have trust without communication, and you can have friends even if you don’t trust them with some or all things… but then again, if you trust one another enough, you wouldn’t necessarily have to convey your emotions and explain your actions. You could just trust that the other person loves you. Hrmm.

    I trust Jesse… probably more than I trust anyone, actually. More than I even trusted Gordon, because Jesse’s more reliable. I can’t trust him with ALL things — nor can I trust anyone with all things — because, for example, I don’t always trust that he’ll remember this or that.

  13. I agree with everything you’ve said. I trust my fiance but I really can’t tell how much ‘coz I have doubts sometimes. But these doubts won’t really affect the way feel about him. I have a few insecurities maybe that’s why I have these doubts. It’s a god thing that my fiance always assures me that he loves me very much and that he will spend the rest of his life with me. =)

  14. I hate it when I lack inspiration. Sometimes I get so frustrated trying to come up with new layouts. But this one is gorgeous. πŸ™‚

    Trust is definitely a necessity in relationships. I don’t trust people quickly; in fact, many of my friends (lovingly) call me cynical and pessimistic. But I can see quite clearly that the friendships that have developed around trust and with time are the most meaningful.

    That is a really good quote. I think that, after a while, trust can be regained, but the road to regaining somebody’s trust is definitely a bumpy one.

    I don’t have a significant other; I’ve never had. I guess I’m too young for that kind of stuff anyways, but I’ve never even had a crush. I hope I do one day, though, and I hope our relationship is built on trust. πŸ™‚

  15. TRUST is the most important thing ever!! W/o trust, I don’t really know if it’s really gonna work out. What’s love w/o trust? Right?

    Take care sis. πŸ˜€

  16. I know! And there’s always the Mother who hates the poor girl because she thinks she’s a gold digger. -_- It’s almost the same story every time. Secret Garden would have to be, and is obviously my favourite. It only has 20 episodes too. What’s Pasta about?

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    No need to rush on getting a new layout up, I love this one! ^_^ I hope you find inspiration soon, though.

    Ah, of course, trust. I don’t really have a significant other (I’m too young, LOL), but trust is important is all sorts of relationships. Friendships, your relationship with your boss or your family and the like.

    I think it would really, really hard to be in a relationship with no trust, so yeah, it’s very, very, very, important.

    PS, how do you get your tweets on your sidebar like that? With no “Twitter Box” or something.

  17. My mother tells me about a particular fruit every time she buys it and brings it home to me. πŸ™‚ For example, if she buys apples back home, she’d tell me about the vitamins it has inside, and so on. It sometimes irritates me the way she keeps repeating her words, but I appreciate how she “trains” me to eat fruits.

    I heard from my aunt that he’d be coming back to Singapore and station in Tuas. Even though I’d probably not be going to Hong Kong anymore, I’m still happy that he is coming back home! πŸ™‚ I hope it’s true, my dad hasn’t told me yet (he probably forgotten) but he says he’ll be back in around June 10.

    Whoa! Now that is pretty tiring, only having around a couple of months’ break every year! Since everything will be worthwhile, hmm, it’s probably worth the hard work. πŸ™‚

    I wasn’t even born when she passed away. πŸ™ So I didn’t have the chance to even see her picture on television before, only on the computer.

  18. Ran

    I don’t have that “significant other” hahaha. hmmm. but I totally agree that it is the most important thing in a relationship πŸ™‚ I believe in the saying, “i trust you is a better complement than i love you πŸ™‚

  19. that’s sad, my previous comment was accused as SPAM and I failed to save my long comment πŸ™

    Anyway, I was just really interested with your topic because I understand the importance of Trust in a relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years now and I totally trust him. And when I say trust, it’s not just about cheating your partner. I trust him, his every word and action. I trust him when he say that he loves me, when he criticize me and even if he doesn’t allow me to do anything that he thinks is bad. I trust that he will not leave me broken hearted and so.

  20. This theme looks nice but I’d love to see the one you’re working on! πŸ™‚

    I do agree with you. TRUST is really one of the cornerstones of a successful relationship. I couldn’t imagine loving someone I do not trust. Maybe I can but that would give me nothing but fear.

    This is such a nice post. πŸ™‚

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